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How Being Emotionally Disconnected Limits Your Life

Being emotionally disconnected

What does it mean to be emotionally disconnected? Being emotionally disconnected means that you feel emotionally detached from others. It means that you feel unable to open up to others –and sometimes with yourself as well –about how you are truly feeling. Becoming emotionally disconnected can occur intentionally:

  • By choosing to hold others at a distant
  • By building emotional walls to keep from getting hurt
  • By opting to go it alone in your life journey
  • By refusing to share your experiences and emotions with others

Emotional disconnection can also occur involuntarily. If you’ve experienced trauma, you may find that you have shut yourself off from others due to the past trauma as well as the fear of getting hurt again. Violation of trust is something you may worry about or something you fear and holding others at a distant may become a coping mechanism for you.

What does being emotionally disconnected look like?

Symptoms of emotional disconnection can be easily overlooked. You may feel like you’ve just checked out of life. Or you may feel like you’re losing interest in things and people. Being emotionally disconnected may look like:

  • Difficulty identifying and communicating your feelings and emotions openly and authentically
  • Struggling with creating and/or maintaining healthy relationships
  • Experiencing emotional reactivity to people and situations
  • Feeling isolated and alone all the time
  • Inability to manage or interact with other people and their emotions

How does being emotionally disconnected limit your life?

Being emotionally disconnected often leaves you feeling alone, abandoned, isolated, and scared. When you are disconnected from your own feelings, you don’t really know what’s going on with you. You don’t understand what’s driving your decisions, what’s motivating you, and what’s fueling your actions and behaviors.

Being cut off from your feelings deprives you of the full range of your experiences. It limits how you experience the world and how you live your life. Life is simply a series of moments that are added up from birth to death. Our feelings and emotions are the way we try to interpret and process the experiences and moments we have lived through. Being emotionally disconnected causes you to close yourself off from others. This causes you to experience broken and unhealthy relationships. When you are unable to connect to your own emotions, you will not be able to relate and connect to others and their emotional experiences.

Additionally, we will not be able to experience true joy or peace. For with joy, comes pain; with love, comes loss. Emotional disconnection limits how we experience the world around us and diminishes our quality of life. Quality of life has demonstrated that there is a clear difference between surviving and thriving.

Restoring emotional connections

You cannot experience true healing without connecting to your emotions. To build a life of quality, connections must be made. Humans do not exist in vacuum. We are connected to all living things and need that connection to thrive.

Lowering walls can be done by embracing vulnerability and rebuilding self-trust. For those of us who have experienced trauma and are afraid of trusting, learning the difference between building walls and setting boundaries can be key to transition from survival mode to a thriving quality life.

It is healthy to set boundaries with others by identifying what things you will tolerate and what things you will not. Setting boundaries goes hand in hand with embracing vulnerability because we can actively communicate to others what our needs are and listen to what they need from us. Boundaries allow us to assert some control over the things we have control of in our environment. When others do not adhere to our boundaries, we have the ability to make changes as needed to safeguard ourselves. Building strong, healthy relationships and connections help us to improve the quality of our lives.

Consequently, when our present lives feel more enjoyable, we’ll find that we enjoy staying present in the here and now more. We’ll find that we are not as preoccupied with worry about the future or consumed with fear, regrets, and doubts about our past. We can embrace the joy of being present in the here and now. We can engage in activities, such as mindfulness, meditation, and prayer as healthy coping skills to boost our joy, resilience, and peace.

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